KB38 - Why Dodging Reality is the Real Roadblock to Your Success

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MIND
THE FRIENDS LENS

Ever caught yourself giving out golden advice to friends and then doing the complete opposite when faced with the same problem?

Yeah, I've been there.

Let’s tackle this with a slice of reality pie: if you treated others the way you treat yourself sometimes... you'd have a lonelier Facebook feed than a tumbleweed-infested ghost town.

Brutal but true.

It's crazy how we often treat ourselves like a nasty boss while being the Mother Teresa of advice for everyone else.

So, how about a little mind hack?

The "Friends Lens" Exercise :

Here’s a little exercise I want you to try the next time you’re stuck in a pickle:

1. Sit Yourself Down: Yes, like physically. Maybe even grab a cookie.🍪 Cookies make everything better.

2. Imagine a Friend: Picture your closest friend approaching you with the same problem you're facing.

3. Spill the Wisdom: What advice would you give them? Speak it out loud or write it down.

4. Note It! That golden nugget you just dished out? That's for YOU, superstar.

5. Act on It: Now that you've got your pearl of wisdom, do something with it!

Remember, you've got a warehouse of genius in your noggin.

Sometimes, all you need is a fresh perspective. And the "Friends Lens" trick? It’s like flipping the mirror around and seeing the genius version of yourself.

BODY
NOT TRACKING PROGRESS

Ever heard of the ostrich effect?

It's our human tendency to bury our heads in the sand when faced with uncomfortable truths.

Now, we all love to improve.

Whether it's becoming the next guitar hero 🎸, beefing up those savings, or maybe shedding a few extra lbs.

But there's this strange thing we humans do:

We avoid the very measurements that show us our progress.

Unfortunately, “common sense isn't common practice.”

If you’re dodging your bank balance 'cause you're afraid of seeing tumbleweeds roll by, guess what?

Ignoring it won’t make your cash magically multiply.

Are you hesitant to hop on that scale? 🤔 

Ignorance might feel like bliss, but turning a blind eye doesn't make those inches disappear from your thighs.

The Nitty Gritty:

📌 What gets measured gets managed. The road to success, whether fitness, finance, or flamenco dancing, begins with knowing where you stand.

📌 Embrace the truth. Painful? Maybe. Liberating? Hell yes! When you know your starting point, you can plan a path forward.

📌 Celebrate the gains (and losses). Watch those numbers. Revel in them. Each tiny change? It’s proof that YOU. ARE. MOVING.

So, if you’re serious about levelling up in life, whip out that measuring tape, bank statement, guitar tuner, or whatever tool you need.

Face those numbers head-on; no ostriching allowed!

CONNECTION
THE POWER OF COMPLIMENTS

Want a secret weapon in your arsenal?

It’s not a gadget from the future. It's not a new app.

It's the age-old art of... complimenting.

Yeah, I know. “A compliment? That’s it?” Stay with me…

In our fast-paced, swipe-right, notification-barrage world, we're so wrapped up in our own whirlwinds that we forget the magic of a simple compliment.

Here's the lowdown on compliments:

🌼 Feel-Good Vibes: When complimenting someone, you hand them a happiness cookie. And who doesn’t love cookies?

🌼 Mirror Effect: Ever notice when you make someone smile, you end up smiling too? Compliments work the same way. It’s like BOGO for feel-good vibes!

🌼 The Connection Key: Compliments are the universal ice-breakers. It's like saying, "Hey, I see you," opening doors to rapport, conversations, and maybe even friendships!

🌼 Opportunity Magnets: Believe it or not, a simple "I love your presentation style" can be the start of a collaboration, job offer, or the next big thing.

Here's the catch: flattery isn’t the same as a genuine compliment.

So, keep it real, like Ian Beale.

Whether "Hey, love your shoes!" or "Your work ethic is on point," make sure it's from the heart.

DIRECTION
TALENTS VS SKILLS

Ever hear someone say, “She’s a natural!” and think, “Guess I'll never be that good”?

Hold onto your hat because we're diving into the age-old debate:

Talents vs. Skills. 🥊

Talent – it's that magic you’re born with. It's like belting out Beyoncé without breaking a sweat or dribbling a basketball like it’s second nature. Some people have it!

Skills – that’s the magic you build. The product of blood, sweat, tears, and maybe a few YouTube tutorials.

Here’s the kicker: have you ever seen a talent go to waste?

Maybe the ‘natural’ artist who never picked up a brush after school or the born singer who only sings in the shower?

As wise people say, "Hard work beats talent when talent doesn't work."

Another lowdown, this time on talent…

🚀 Gifted but Grounded: Sure, talents are like getting a head-start in a race. But without training, even the fastest sprinter can stumble.

🚀 Earn Your Stripes: Skills? They’re badges of honour. Every skill you acquire is like a trophy, shouting, "I worked for this!"

🚀 The Success Path: Ask any big shot in their field – success isn’t just about what you’re born with. It's about the grind, the practice, the relentless pursuit of growth.

Focusing on skills means you're in the driver's seat.

Don’t have a knack for something? No worries!

With dedication, you can get there. And the journey? It’s a lot more rewarding.

TLDR

👉 MIND: Consistently handing out gold-star advice to friends, but only giving yourself the bronze? Introducing the 'Friends Lens': an introspective tool ensuring you champion your challenges as you would for your bestie.

👉 BODY: Playing ostrich won't hide your bank balance or shed pounds. Real champions measure, face truths, and celebrate progress, one step at a time.

👉 CONNECTION: In a digital whirlwind, genuine compliments are the unsung heroes: linking hearts, opening conversations, and crafting opportunities. Power up with authentic praise!

👉 DIRECTION: Talent's the spark; skills are the flame. While some have a head start, the race is truly won in the pursuit of constant growth.

Brain Game Answer:
The Letter “M”