KB106- Your identity is malleable.

Harsh Truths
Super Harsh Truths To Help You Start 2025 with a Bang!

Welcome to Part Four of my 12-part “Super Harsh Truth Series” for this festive season!

Over the next 12 days, leading right up to New Year’s Eve, I’ll be dropping daily truth bombs to challenge your mindset, spark action, and help you gear up for an incredible 2025.

My goal?

To give you at least one game-changing insight each day that you can take into the new year, laying the groundwork for a year you’ll indeed be proud of!

Let’s dive into #4: “Your identity is malleable.”

#4 - Your identity is malleable.

 The harsh truth?

You are not fixed.

The person you are today is nothing more than the result of the habits, choices, and beliefs you’ve allowed to shape you.

If you’re unhappy with who you are, where you are, or what you’ve achieved, there’s no excuse to stay the same.

You’re not a tree.

You can move.

You can change.

Stop hiding behind the phrase, “That’s just who I am.”

That’s not who you are!

It’s who you’ve chosen to be up until now.

Saying that is just a lazy way of avoiding the work required to evolve.

It’s easier to cling to your flaws than to take responsibility for fixing them.

But comfort zones are prisons, and the walls are built with excuses like these:

• “I’ve always been bad at this.”

• “I’m just not that type of person.”

• “I’m not wired for success.”

Reality check:

• You’re not “bad” at something; you’ve just never practised enough to get good.

• You’re not “that type of person” because you’ve never made the effort to become them.

• You’re not “wired” for failure; you’re wired to survive, which requires adaptation.

Identity is a choice.

The version of you that wakes up early, crushes workouts, builds businesses, writes books, or accomplishes dreams isn’t some fantasy.

It’s just a version of you that’s willing to do the work.

Your potential is infinite, but tapping into it requires letting go of the stories you’ve been telling yourself about who you are.

The truth?

• The person who gets in shape isn’t “different” from you; they’re just disciplined.

• The entrepreneur who built a thriving business didn’t start with all the answers; they started scared, just like you can.

• The confident person you envy doesn’t have it easier; they’ve just done the internal work you keep avoiding.

Your past doesn’t define you. Your actions do!

If you’ve been lazy, unmotivated, or stuck, that’s who you were.

It’s not who you have to be tomorrow.

Change your habits, and you’ll change your results.

Change your results, and you’ll change your life.

What’s required?

• Radical honesty. Own where you’ve been, but don’t let it dictate where you’re going.

• Consistent action. Every day, make choices that align with the person you want to become.

• A new narrative. Stop saying “I can’t” and start asking, “How can I?”

Ask yourself:

• What identity are you clinging to out of fear of change?

• Who could you become if you stopped making excuses?

• Are you willing to let go of who you’ve been to embrace who you could be?

Here’s the truth:

Your identity isn’t set in stone; it’s written in pencil.

You can erase what doesn’t serve you and write something new.

So, stop settling for “who you’ve always been.”

Decide who you want to be and work for it every single day.

The only thing standing between you and your next-level self is your willingness to evolve.

Change is hard, yes.

But regret is harder.

Choose wisely!