- Knowledge Bomb Newsletter
- Posts
- KB63 - 3 Tips To Boost Your Social Smarts
Next week, I will select two lucky people to win a FREE PLACE on my up-and-coming Six-Week Summer Shred Challenge.
Not only will hundreds of people be getting in the shape of their lives in the build-up to summer, but the person who does best on the challenge will win the ultimate prize..
An all-expenses paid trip to Ibiza and VIP Tickets to the International Fitness Summit in September!
MINDSET
3 Tips To Boost Your Social Smarts
Social intelligence is all about getting to know yourself and understanding others.
It's the knack for figuring out social situations, knowing how to get along with people, and adjusting your behaviour to suit different settings.
Here are three tips on how you can get better at it:
Tip #1 - Think Everyone Has Something to Teach You
Imagine that everyone you meet can teach you something new.
This mindset opens you up to learning and growing through every chat you have. It makes you curious, which is great for building strong friendships and understanding people better.
Here’s how it helps:
Keeps You Open to Learning: You start seeing chats as chances to learn, making you keen to listen and take in new views.
Makes You a Better Listener: Believing everyone has something to share makes you listen more closely, which helps you get what they're really saying.
Boosts Understanding of Others: It helps you see where they're coming from, making it easier to connect on a deeper level.
Keeps You Curious: You end up asking more questions and really listening to the answers, which can lead to interesting discoveries.
Shows You’re Humble: It’s a way to show that you don’t know everything and that you value others' insights.
Helps You Solve Problems: You learn different ways to think about and solve problems.
Makes You Resilient: You get better at handling tough feedback because you see it as a chance to improve.
Quick Tip: Ask lots of questions, really listen to the answers, and think over what you've learned after your chats.
Tip #2 - Remember, Names Are Magic
Calling people by their name is super powerful.
It shows you’ve made the effort to remember them, making them feel special and valued.
Here’s why it’s important:
Builds a Connection: Using someone’s name makes your chat more personal.
Shows You Care: It’s a sign you’re paying attention to them, which people love.
Keeps Them Engaged: Saying someone’s name grabs their attention, making sure they’re really listening to you.
Makes Everyone Happier: It creates a friendly vibe and makes people feel like they belong.
Boosts Their Confidence: Hearing their name in a positive way can make someone feel great about themselves.
Quick Tip: Try to use names soon after you learn them, connect names to images to help you remember, and always ask again if you forget.
Tip #3 - Be the First to Act
Being the first to do something, like saying hello, offering help, or sharing a bit about yourself, can really change the game in social situations.
It shows you’re confident and makes everyone more open and friendly.
Here’s the deal:
Eases Awkwardness: Making the first move breaks the ice, making it easier for everyone to chat.
Sets a Positive Tone: You get to steer the conversation in a friendly and constructive direction.
Shows You’re Brave: It’s a sign of confidence, which people admire.
Encourages Kindness: When you’re nice first, people will likely return the favour, creating a nicer environment for everyone.
Helps You Make Friends: It’s a quick way to build new friendships and strengthen old ones.
Quick Tip: Jump into conversations, offer a hand if you see someone in need, share something about yourself, and don’t forget to say nice things to others.
By thinking everyone has something to teach you, remembering names, and being the first to act, you can really boost your social smarts.
These tips aren’t just about making friends…
They’re about building deeper connections and navigating social situations with ease.
NEW PODCAST
Where People Go Wrong With Happiness
The New Happy Author Stephanie Harrison
This week on the Mindset with Muscle Podcast, I’m speaking to Stephanie Harrison.
Stephanie is an expert in the science of happiness and the creator of the New Happy philosophy. She has a master’s degree in positive psychology from the University of Pennsylvania,
Her company, The New Happy, has revolutionised how people understand and pursue happiness.
Their artwork, newsletter, videos, podcasts, and resources reach millions worldwide every month.
In this episode, we talk about…
How our society has led us to pursue the wrong things for happiness
The importance of finding intrinsic motivation
The importance of self-acceptance and self-worth in the pursuit of happiness
The role of social media in shaping happiness
NEW PODCAST
How To Build A Business Part One
Starting a new business is tough! In this episode, we show you exactly how to get started!
Starting a new business in 2024 is not easy!
In this two-part episode, Dan and I will walk you through how to get started!
In this episode, we discuss…
The importance of finding clarity and identifying your skills
How to research successful businesses in the same field
The importance of building a personal brand
The power of DMs and outreach
I hope you enjoyed this week’s Knowledge Bomb Newsletter.
See you next week for another Installment.
Jay Alderton
Join the conversation